IT'S OKAY TO BE SELFISH (BY NILE FROM UNIVERSITY OF MARYLAND)

I'm becoming comfortable with focusing on myself and doing what's best for me. 

This might sound silly, but being selfish (in a good way of course) isn't easy for everyone.

I was considered to be a "people-pleaser" type of person. I was bullied a lot in middle school, and as a result, I tried to do everything in my power to make sure that everyone liked me so that I could avoid drama and conflict with others. 

I also deal with anxiety. I apologize too much--even for things that aren't my fault. I overthink. I worry. If someone is upset I often think that I did something to cause it, even if it had nothing to do with me. 

During winter break, I had some time to self-reflect and I realized that I have a habit of constantly giving to people without giving to myself. I always make sure the people around me are okay, but I didn't always make sure Nile was okay. I was pouring from an empty cup.

From Pinterest

On the first day of the spring semester, I woke up with a different mindset. I realized that it was my last semester as an underclassman and time is flying by. I have to do what's best for Nile, even if that means letting both people and things go.

So I started doing little things.

I woke up earlier. I cooked breakfast for myself almost every morning. I went to the gym more often. I put my phone on Do Not Disturb when doing homework. I joined more clubs. I said "No," to people without feeling the need to explain myself.

These things sound like they're not a big deal, but doing these things gave me time and space for myself. Trying to please everyone did nothing but make me take on other people's stress which caused for my mental health to deteriorate.

Since I've been focusing on myself, I've gained much more clarity.

My favorite Alex Elle quote.

I sleep better at night. I've been eating healthier. I've met new people. I've been going to different places and trying new things.

I'm sharing my story just to remind you all that it's okay to CHOOSE YOURSELF. I know it's easier said than done, but you can do it--even if you have to take baby steps.

Make yourself a nice meal. Go for a run. Wear a cute outfit. Wake up earlier. Listen to your favorite songs. Do a face mask.

When you finally choose yourself, you will be happier and at peace. I promise. It may have taken me 19 years, but I finally did it. 

How do you practice self-care and self-love? Let me know by tweeting me @NaturallyNi or @NerdyNaturals01.

Nile is the creator of the Nerdy Naturals blog. She is a Sophomore Communication major with a concentration in Public Relations and minors in Chinese and entrepreneurship from Maryland. In her free time she enjoys watching natural hair tutorial videos, drinking coffee, and reading.  You can also email nerdynaturals@gmail.com if you have any questions or are interested in contributing.